Love Language Date

Max and I had a fun and enlightening date recently that we will share. I got the idea while I was cleaning the the car inside and out. While doing this I was just thinking how happy Max will be when he sees the car. I've known for a awhile that the way to Max's heart is hard labor. He feels that I care most about him when I am serving him, our family, or others by doing some sort of visual project. In most cases this involves cleaning. His ideal dates have included painting the bathroom together, sanding the kitchen cabinets, sealing the deck, and the never ending yard work.  In my mind this seems kind of ridiculous but I sure love that man and want to show it so I play along. After a good project we always enjoy spending time together and getting a project done. Anyway, back to the car washing story...I started to think that it would be fun to have a love language gift/wish list. I feel that Max and I are both pretty decent at recognizing the needs of each other but why not make it even easier...no beating around the bush, and write down the things that would make us feel the most loved. There would be no obligation to check off everything on the list, we would just be giving each other ideas on ways to show love. No hints around here, we just say what we want. We have taken a similar love language quiz a couple years ago but for this date we took the official one on this website...
http://www.5lovelanguages.com/

The 5 love languages are as follows:
Words of Affirmation
Acts of Service
Receiving Gifts
Quality Time
Physical Touch

If you decide to do this quiz, we recommend not doing in front of each other. The questions were phrased kind of like this..."Do you wish your wife cleaned up around the house more" or "Do you wish your husband listened to you more without being distracted by his phone." You have to pick between two options that don't sound so good. It doesn't take into account that I do clean up the house and Max does listen to me. Anyway, you just have to pick the  choice that's most important to you whether your spouse does it or not.

So Max's results were no surprise. He scored extremely high in Acts of Service, with Quality Time in second place...(seems appropriate as he thinks serving together is quality time)

 I scored highest in Physical Touch but then tied for a close second were Quality Time and Words of Affirmation. (This basically means I have 3 Love Languages thus reaffirming that women are more complicated.)

We both scored very low on Receiving Gifts. This made complete sense as we much prefer to have good experiences (Quality time) for birthdays and holidays instead of gifts or things.

After we did our little quiz we made our love language gift list...On Max's side were things like yard work, back scratches, deep cleaning, working along side him with anything, serving others, cooking great food, and paying the bills. My wish list consisted of massages, love notes, compliments, and cuddle time.
Most of these things are things that we do anyway but maybe not as often as necessary to really express our love to our spouse. We have been having so much fun going the extra mile since our date a couple weeks ago.

I've been finding love notes in all different forms in various places. The flowerbeds have been thoroughly weeded, our house is cleaner. It's the date that keeps on giving, you should try it. Totally worth the time.

And to not be accused of being a picture with-holder again, I will now add a lovey dovey picture...